I have crazy control issues
In a very unhealthy way
My control isn’t necessarily physical
It is psychological
Let me give you an example
I can plan a whole day of activities
If “life” happens and plans change
I often feel some type of way
I feel a sense of anxiety
“Oh no”
“Now we can’t do that next”
Another example
I dominate my thought processes on others
Sometimes I can block another’s
Point of view
I do not intentionally do this
I am learning
The value of different perspectives
The value of letting others
Make decisions that are best for them
But I have to admit
It is a constant struggle
Because I have been programmed
To my unhealthy ways
I am unlearning
—BiggerThanMeMovement
#ControlIssues
How can I balance control? What works for you?
I think it’s the “black woman” effect. We have been told so many times that we have to work harder then the next to get to were we need to be, no one even life isn’t supposed to knock our plans off. I read this and I see me. I plan plan plan and when it doesn’t go right the failure seems all mine, even when it failed because of snow. How in the world can I control that, but in my mind, I should have known it would’ve happened and prepared. I guess I’m a work in progress too lol.
A work in progress we are. We can only do but so much. It is a challenge to accept this concept, but it is our reality. Let’s learn to relinquish the control😎