Sometimes I feel like I have superpowers. Like… I am unusually strong in some of the less ideal situations. I manage to carry on with grace and a smile on my face- through all adversity ✨

Why are we so quick to think we are not deserving? Or like something is too good to be true? I believe it is because we were “trained” to have a “lack” mentality. I’ve got news for you- it does NOT have to be that way. I, you, and we can truly manifest our heart’s desires. Just continue to learn, grow, and push forward… I PROMISE- you will see the fruits of your labor 🥂😎

I am really enjoying our vacation. We ate breakfast and sat out on the beach for quite some time. Then we headed to Ben & Jerry’s for a 10am treat. I try not to eat a lot of ice cream as I normally only get a scoop or two.

But this time was different. I thought- I am on vacation. I am enjoying myself and my company. I am deserving of something different. I requested a banana split as my morning treat. I was overwhelmed with joy on the inside as I didn’t know I could pick any three flavors.

I remember a feeling of bliss in that moment. A feeling of more than enough- capturing a simple, but beautiful gesture. I debated internally if I wanted to ask for a cherry. I muscled up the strength because again- I am more than deserving. Unfortunately, they didn’t have them… that wasn’t an issue for me.

I am just glad I stood up for myself and asked for what I deserve❤️✨

I asked my wife to suggest a topic for my blog. She said “women’s empowerment” and provided an explanation. I couldn’t help but to agree with her point of view. Women are the “underdog” no matter how you look at it. We have to extra extra try just to be mediocre. Then, we have to compete with our male counterparts and just “accept” being valued less- this is because “that’s the way it’s been”.

We have to stop being afraid to share our gifts with one another. Why do we fear our friends might be jealous? Why do we fear our friends might not care? What is the root cause of the triggers? We must work through the issues before moving forward. Women have the ability to build empires on their own – Mother Earth😉. Imagine what we can build when we collaborate dopeness with dopeness…

But first, we must acknowledge that we possess something valuable within ourselves. Then, we must understand we manifest our outer based on our inner. For example. If I feel poorly about myself- I will attract those who treat me poorly. If I treat myself with love – I will attract those who love and value me. Next, we must encourage ourselves to develop a spirit of networking. This is the healthy act of exchanging thoughts and ideas. But why do we fear “networking”? Let’s go back and work through the triggers. The final step is to expand.

Expand this framework to others to learn and implement. This is how we change the world- and it starts with us… because the men just follow behind us anyway😉

Come on- we ALL have them. We just try our best to cover it with the good. I’ve come to the conclusion that my darkness is taking me to my destiny. Let’s see- where do I begin?🤔.

Maybe I can start with my birth. My conception was regretful. I think I felt safer inside the womb than out. I entered this world afraid and lost. I never experienced a sense of belonging growing up. It didn’t help when others insisted I did not belong. I did the unimaginable to feel “accepted”.

I was repeatedly faced with sexual abuse- by multiple people. I was somewhat happy about the abuse because I received the attention I had always yearned for. I’d rather have the attention than no attention at all. I eventually became promiscuous and initiated sexual relations due to the increased desires for attention. I placed myself in dangerous situations without thinking twice. This went on for years…decades…

It wasn’t until I went deep within as I tried to wrap my mind around this concept of “healing”. I’ve learned it wasn’t my fault- despite what I was told. I understood I unfortunately wasn’t alone in these experiences. I was able to see the value of my existence.

This may sound crazy, but I am grateful for those scary experiences. 1) I have a testimony to share with others in my shoes 2) I learned “reasons & seasons” 3) I have connected the dots on my life over the years (I have a better understanding of how I acted out in certain situations).

I signed up for this life of mine. I agreed to ALL terms and conditions. The good.. bad.. and ugly. I embrace it all. I understand the bad and ugly can often shape a person. However, it does not have to define YOU! Allow the past to teach you and give you the opportunity to be better- to help others get better❤️